by Jo McNally
Make new friends, but keep the old;
Those are silver, these are gold. Joseph Parry
Friendship is a recurring theme throughout the book, and that’s not a coincidence. I’m one of those people who doesn’t have a huge number of close friends (it’s a Capricorn thing), but the ones I have are absolute treasures in my life. Yes, of course, my husband, Himself (it’s an Irish thing), is my best friend. But more about him some other time. I’m talking about girlfriends today!
When I moved South from upstate NY to North Carolina four years ago, I left some much-loved friends behind. But thanks to the wonders of Facebook, email, texting and telephones, our friendships are as strong as ever. One of us can send a text saying “I really need to talk,” and within minutes that phone call is happening, and it’s as if we’re sitting in the same room again, laughing and listening and caring. When I’m visiting up North, we always make time to get together. These gals knew me when I made the surprise announcement that I was writing a romance novel. Each one of them reacted in the same way--not with worry and warnings and practicality, but with “Oh, wow! That’s amazing! You’ll do great!” Some have even been beta-readers as I figured out what I was doing, and their cheerleading and advice has been invaluable. Long distance friends rock!
Moving to a new state was really scary for me. I’d lived within a few miles of where I grew up for...well...let’s just say it was long time, okay? But Himself and I were so fortunate to end up living in an amazing new town, and most importantly, an amazing little dead-end street. I have dear friends here who don’t happen to be my neighbors (including a special gal who actually flew as Mary Poppins this month in our local theater!), but my neighbors are incredible women.
And did I mention they were crazy?
We have different backgrounds, we all moved here from different places, and yet we were instant friends when we met. The type of friends who can send a group text saying “wine night tonight, my porch, 7PM” and we’re there. The type of friends where we can sit and talk about anything without fear. Jobs. Family. Husbands. Health. Whatever. And speaking of husbands, our husbands are such good friends they go out for “guys wing night” every week--talk about lucky!
We’re the type of friends who can call and say “Hey, wanna help me plan a….” and the answer is “yes” before we finish the sentence. Golf tournament? Check. Valentine’s Party? Check. Wine tasting? Check. Murder mystery Halloween party? Check. St. Patrick’s Party? Check. Surprise birthday party with half a ton of confetti? Check. And my favorite party of all? The dinner party (we have a lot of those) that ended up being my surprise book contract party.
There were stacks of books everywhere as decorations. We
I’m not sure about that silver and gold quote - how can anyone really determine which friends are most valuable in our lives? Perhaps the point is that they’re each precious, just in different ways. What do you think? How important are girlfriends to your life?