Tuesday, October 15, 2013

On The Road to Together



I am writing this blog post from the passenger seat of my minivan, en route to Boston for a family gathering. Whether we will make it or not has yet to be determined, for – in a fit of temporary insanity – I am letting my husband drive. 

Oh, not the whole six hours, of course. Just the last one. I would have been fine to keep driving, but he finished the book he brought along and is bored, so at the last rest area I handed over the keys.
I had to yell at him three times before we were back on the highway. 

My husband isn’t really a bad driver (though we won't mention that spell when he got about four speeding tickets in eighteen months). He's simply not me. He drives differently and makes the bed differently and packs differently. And because his way isn’t my way, and I am the Queen of All I Survey, in my eyes, he's doing it wrong. 

(Oh no. He just switched the radio to something hard rock'ish. Shoot me now.)

We all know that relationships require compromise. Romance readers and writers probably know this better than most, as it's the core of our stories – two people with radically different stances on one or more areas, searching for a middle ground (damn it, he took his hand off the wheel again!) where they can be together. Sometimes it can take a heck of a lot of searching. (Can he not settle on one speed for the wipers?) But our characters know that the struggle is worth it, for that middle ground is the place where they find love. 

After thirty-three years together, it's a lesson my husband and I know very well, too. 

But so help me, if he doesn't stop tailgating the truck in front of us, we may be back to searching again. Very very soon.

15 comments:

Mary Preston said...

Just too funny. Good luck!!

kris said...

Thanks, Mary. We made it home safe and sound. so all is well. Of course, I drove all the way home ...

Jennifer Lohmann said...

I always think it's funny how the route makes a difference. Not just, "I wouldn't drive in that manner," but "Why did you turn there? It's much faster to turn at the next light," especially when it's probably not much faster at all.

Cathryn Parry said...

Hi, Kris! Boston--you were driving in my neck of the woods. Condolences if there was any bad traffic (not fun!).

Kaelee said...

Kris ~ I didn't get a driver's license until I was almost 36 years old. Since then my honey and I share the driving. Right now with our old creaky circulations systems we stop and run around the car and change driver's every hour usually. He is the better driver.

Glad you had a great trip to Boston.

kris said...

Jennifer, YES!!! Oh, the discussions we have had over that ...

Cathryn, for once the traffic wasn't bad (other than the cow on the Mass Pike on our way in). I do love Boston, but driving there can definitely be a challenge!

Kaelee, SNORT! I SOOO hear you on the need to run around the car!

Di said...

LOL!! Thanks for the chuckle!

kris said...

Di, thank YOU for checking us out!

linda s said...

My hubby makes me laugh when he tells me how to drive. I never argue with the driver as it is too distracting. I give directions once and if he ignores them... his problem. He actually gave away a new GPS, silly boy.

mary sullivan said...

Fun post, Kris! Road trips can be so much fun, but I usually relax more when I'm driving than when someone else is!

kris said...

Linda, my husband wants to know if he can borrow you for our next road trip.

Mary, yes! Being the passenger is HARD! And no, I'm not a control freak at all, why do you ask? :-)

Fedora said...

LOL! Marriage is definitely all about compromise ;) And I think often DH finds it more comfortable to be in the driver's seat than the passenger's when we road-trip... Not a problem for me, since I prefer to snooze :D

kris said...

Fedora, oh, to be able to sleep in a car - what bliss!

Snookie said...

AH Kris, that is so us! He keeps flipping radio stations, not bothering to ask if I was listening, he turns the wipers on after the windshield is so full of raindrops that I can't see out, don't know how he can, slows down at the last minute...BUT there are so many other things he does that are just great, I try to ignore the annoying little things (pick your battles)! We've been married 27 yrs and I'm keeping him!

kris said...

Snookie, I'm with you :-)

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