Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Real Life

When I was at the Romantic Times Convention two weeks ago in Kansas City I heard someone observe that Facebook posts can seem too contrived. It's true, I suppose--depending upon who's posting and what they're showing. It's like the Christmas letter you get every year from that one family where everyone is doing so swell and no one suffers from any disease be it physical, mental, emotional, spiritual...you get my drift (no pun on snow at Christmas intended)!
I've been dealing with some interesting things in my life lately. By "interesting" I mean challenges, triumphs, sorrows...life. They're not on my Facebook page or in my Tweets, but they are very real in my day.
As an author I promote my brand, my type of book. On Facebook I have an author page devoted more to writing and reading, and my personal page...well, it's not so personal anymore. I've removed photos that were too intimate or about my kids. I'm being more careful, aren't we all? But in doing that, I can see how someone might read my posts or tweets and think "she has the perfect life." I'm incredibly blessed, yes. But I'm a real woman with a heart that pumps blood and love for my own. I struggle with so many of the same issues we all do. I'm human.
Real Me, on the Real Appalachian Trail
I'd like to think the evidence of my humanness is in my books. When I read a novel I love, it's because I connect with the characters. The author has reached my heart. And as I read the book, I know the author understands my darkest fears, my still-kept secrets. Her Facebook page and website might be all glittery unicorns and faeries, but I know she too, is human. And like me, she has hope for a happy ending and the strength to write one.

11 comments:

Pamela Hearon said...

Great post and so true for all of us, Geri! I was brought up to let the world see my smile but not my tears, and so my FB page reflects that. But that one reason I love writing Supers--I feel like I'm writing real stories about real people, sometimes drawing on real-life experiences for me.

(((hugs)))

Geri Krotow said...

Thanks, Pam. Yes, it's interesting how our writing is cathartic for us, and hopefully our readers, too. As a reader and movie-watcher I've been able to shed tears that otherwise were shoved down...all good!

Snookie said...

I love a story that is "real". That's what I like about supers. They seem to me to be about real people with real problems that I can relate too. There are some harlequin lines that are just not believable to me and I don't read them. I will always pick up a super! ;)

Geri Krotow said...

Aww, Snookie, I'm with you! I can't suspend my disbelief anymore, although I do still adore a well-written historical. Thanks for supporting Supers! I hope you've entered for the coach bag of Supers!

Mary Brady said...

Hugs, Geri! From another corner of the real world. I also like the life-like feel of the SuperRomance line.

And thanks Snookie!

Geri Krotow said...

Hi Mary! I like writing for Supers for this reason, too. My characters don't always have to be perky. :)

Mary Preston said...

When I read, I like to feel that I'm not only connecting to the characters, but the real person who wrote them as well.

Geri Krotow said...

Yes, Mary P., exactly! Which is why I sometimes go up to authors I've read at conferences and expect them to know me as I think I "know" them, giggle. Probably scared a few.

Julia Broadbooks said...

I know those Christmas letters well. They're even odder when you know the family well enough to know all the unhappy bits that got edited out.

I think it's so true that I know an author better through her stories than through any posts on social media.

Geri Krotow said...

Great point, Julia. Imagine going to a counselor and when they ask you to tell them about yourself instead you give them a pile of your novels to read?

Lisa said...

I appreciate that you discussed this. Like many people who responded to this blog, one reason that I especially love Superromance novels is because they're so real. I identify more with novels that show real-life relationships and struggles, and most of all that genuine love, hope and happiness can emerge from these struggles.

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