Boy, am I glad to be here. I feel like I’ve just been accepted into the cool girls’ corner of the schoolyard. I’m Kate. From Canada. I’m a new Superromance author and this is my first blog, ever.
I wanted to write about the windows and doors thing. You know, one closes, another one opens. I’ve had a lot of changes in my life in the past few years, so I’ve grown to understand the concept intimately. One of the most exciting and fun changes has been the sale of my book, A Deliberate Father, to Superromance. The day Megan Long called to say they wanted to buy my book a window opened.
And the door part? We’d just sold our farm that we had homesteaded thirty-five years earlier. Homesteaded as in, yes, we cleared the land, built a house, outbuildings, ponds, roads. Had our children and watched them grow into independent adults. The farm defined who we were, but the time had come when that wasn’t enough. We wanted something different.
Our friends thought we were crazy to sell and start over. Change is not a concept many of us welcome with open arms, and as the years pass, I welcome it even less. But it’s often imposed on us, and I’ve discovered if you listen or look hard enough, you’ll hear that window open. I swear. It’s an opportunity for growth, even if we like things as they are, thank you very much.
My December release, A Deliberate Father, is all about change. Both my hero and heroine resist the altering circumstances in their lives. Not surprisingly, they discover resistance can lead to heartache. But once they accept there is no going back and start looking forward, good things begin to happen.
If you’ve just heard a door close firmly behind you, like me, you might want to start looking for that open window. No telling what wondrous events are waiting for you.
I know I’m not the only one who has had to deal with change in their life. I’d love to hear your stories.
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47 comments:
Yeah! Another Canadian Author! Congratulations on the sale of your first book and the sale of your homestead. It's not easy to do either one. I hope you enjoy both changes.
Right at the moment we are stagnating but we have embraced a lot of changes over the years. My husband turned 65 in January so we should be free to travel but we have a precious cat who need medication twice a day so we are whipping our yard into shape. We are getting a wonderful tomato crop and enjoy giving lots of them to some of our neighbors. We're going to take a two day break today and go to the okanogan. Makes for lots of driving there and back but that's as long as we will leave our Saxon nowadays.
What a lovely post, Kate! I hope you enjoy both these wonderful changes (becoming a Super author and selling the farm). I hope this will leave you free to write lots more books!
As for change, I haven't gone looking for it, but I think it's going to find me. I admire people who actively create it. :)
Kaelee (Love your name!) It sounds like you have a wonderful and busy life. I can just taste those tomatoes! We had a Shepard who was ill for about a year, and our activities were curtailed during that time. But I treasure the time we spent with him. He was a much a member of our family as the kids!
Norah,it's a funny thing about change. I think it has a snowball affect. One thing chnages, then another and before you know it, the emotional, and sometimes physical, landscape is different.
What a wonderful post and so appre peaux for me right now. I was laid off in June and decided to take the opportunity to write full time. So far I've published two books, Centauri Dawn and Tame A Wild Heart. I never would have done that if that window hadn't opened when the door closed.
Great post Kelly! Thanks.
Enjoyed your post, Kate. And congratulations on your new SuperRomance! Selling your farm after 35 years is a big change. Hope your future is shiny and bright.
Thank you for sharing your story and Congrats on your first release!
Change - wow, I quit my job in Dec. For the first time since I was 13 (which was a long time ago) I was out of work. Big adjustment.
My husband and I are also thinking of moving from MN to Vegas! Whoa.
~ Jenna
Kate,
Congratulations on your sale to Superromance! How exciting.
I can only imagine what a leap of faith it took for you to sell your farm after 35 years. Change is difficult, but I believe that by trusting your instincts, things work out for the best.
Our big change came two years ago when we went from home schooling to public school. It was a huge decision, but I can honestly say the transition went better than I thought, and it was definitely the right move for our family. But boy, those months leading up to the decision were excruciating.
Kate, congrats on A Deliberate Father! Great post. Hope you have fun with your changes. The farm sounded like a great place to bring up children--and a lot of work.
Yay a new author! I was looking at the eHarlequin site the other night and realised I’d read almost everything on offer!
I’m pretty good at massive changes.
I gave up a professional ballet career when it was just getting going – after growing up training forty hours a week – and moved to London to work in a bar. Not exactly a long-term plan, but I was going insane and needed an entirely different life at that moment!
I’ve upped and moved to Asia (from Australia) twice too. Sometimes you just have to take opportunities when they come.
That is a beautiful and touching post, Kate. I like your door and window analogy. Congratulations on your sale! Here's wishing you mucho success with your open window!
Congratulations on your first SUPER....will be looking forward to it.
There have been a lot of changes in my life because my father worked for an oil company and we moved frequently. But the biggest change came when my mother passed away several years after my father. I had arranged my life to take care of them then when I no longer had to take care of them I was lost...oh I was still teaching but the months when school was out left me lost as to what to do with myself. Then a friend asked if I wanted to take a trip to Yellowstone National Park with her and we would drive so we could see what was along the way and suddenly I was no longer lost. We traveled together every summer for several years.
Congratulations on your first book! I hope each day is an adventure. As for myself, I don't mind the changes so long as I have some measure of control of what is being changed. Yeah, that happens a lot. Not!
I'm so excited for you, Kate. And, I've read A Deliberate Father! Lucky me! I have to tell everyone it is the most wonderful book. It'll make you laugh and touch your heartstrings in the most unexpected ways. It's one of the best books I've read in a long time!
Welcome and congratulations on your first book!
The "door closing" at our home was our last child going off to college and leaving us as empty nesters. The "window opening" was becoming empty nesters - can't believe how much of a boost it has been in our marriage. (Still love all my kids - just don't especially want them to move back home now!)
Congratulations on your first book AND your first blog! Good job! When I started way back in late Feb, I trembled in my boots at the thought of blogging. Now I can't wait to line up another one! LOL. It helps to have the gift of gab, and hey...! That's why I'm a writer! LOL
Regina Duke
Thank you for your lovely post, and congratulations on your book. I love your positive attitude about one of your life's major changes. My biggest "door closing" was leaving Scotland and my extended family as a child. My biggest "window opening" was emigrating to Canada with my parents, paving the way for the wonderful life I have here.
Congratulations on your first book, Kate! It's such an exciting time. I'm sure you'll savor it.
You wrote such a thoughtful post, too. I'm with Janet. Both my kids are in college so it's a major adjustment, but I also find I'm getting to know my husband again.
Welcome, Kate, and congratulations on your first SuperRomance! We look forward to reading it.
As for change, I can't honestly say that I like change simply for the sake of change. I'm pretty much a steady-as-she-goes kind of person. However, I do recognize that without change and the people who embrace it, the world would be a much different place. I do tend to embrace technological change in general, though.
And it's technological change that brought my husband and me together. We met on CompuServe, an email service provider that also had a few interactive services for subscribers, in 1985, before the internet we know today even existed. In fact, personal computers were definitely the exception, rather than the norm. We connected on CompuServe's CB Simulator (what would now be called a chat room), and even though we lived 500 miles apart, we eventually got together physically as well as digitally and decided to make it permanent.
So, while technology was just beginning to change the workplace (and not always in a good way, as labor-intensive work became computerized and people lost jobs), it definitely opened a window for me.
My mother has another way of putting the whole door and window analogy. She has always said, when you find yourself in a pile of horse dung (though she used a little stronger word), rather than complain, look around until you find the pony!
Hey - another Canadian here!
I have two small kids, so it seems every day is different from the next, filled with new chanllenges. But that's the joy of parenting, right?
Marcy
Congratulations on your new book! Wow! I'll be looking for it next month. Enjoyed your blog. I like to think of doors and windows as the closing of one book of my life and beginning the next one.
I apologize. I had to be away from my computer for a while and things took longer than anticipated. So many wonderful comments,and such a warm welcome! What a great community this is.
Kate
Thank you, Linda S. I love your analogy of closing one book to open another!
JV,
I like your mother! Next time, I'll definitely look for the pony! Thanks for sharing the story of how you and your husband connected. You were ahead of your time!
I have went through a lot of changes in my life not moving so to speak but with job changes. My husband and I both lost a job we had for twenty one years at the same time and we when though a lot a changes at that time very scary. He now has a pretty good job and I am still looking but things have got better.
Darlene and Janet both talked about the positive change in their marriage once the last kids left for college. My husband and I had more time for each other as well, which was great. But what I also discovered was I had more time for myself. For me that mean focusing more on my writing.
Maureen, Scotland is such a beautiful country! Do you ever go back to visit?
Virginia, I know, change came be frightening. I've found when I'm in the thick of it, I can't see the benefits, and it's only after I've gained some distance that I understand.
Hi Kate! Great blog. Once upon a time my husband got laid off as chief geologist at a major mine when metal prices tanked. He'd been promised a job with a government agency, but just when the job opened (after waiting 2 months) there was a hiring freeze. No job. We were devastated. But...he went back to school in his late forties, got a teaching degree and taught 6-8th grade combined in a rural school near our home. Both our kids had him as a teacher for 3 years. He is so close to them now--much closer than he would have been if he had continued in geology. Door closed. Window opened. Now he teaches next door to me. I'm science. He's math.
Ellen Too, it sounds like you had many wonderful trips with your friend. That's exactly the kind of thing I was talking about!
Jeannie, I love the story of how your husband became a teacher. Funny ( or sometimes not so funny) how life gives us a push, even if we don't want it or think we don't need it.
Sonya, you sound like you have such an exotic life! What an incredible change from the rigorous routine of ballet to working in a bar. Which, I imagine, can be rigorous in its own way.
Welcome, Kate, to the Super family of writers and readers. I love reading first books and look forward to your December release.
Karina
Congrats on the sale of your first book! Great post!
Kate - welcome to Supers!! I love buying debut books.
I so believe in the one door closes another one opens. It may not open all the way, just give it a nudge (or a kick) and you're in.
No stories of mine to tell.
Congrats on the sale of your book.....will be looking for it!!
Thanks again for the warm welcome. This is a very supportive group!
Welcome to Superromance, Kate. I'm also Canadian -- transplanted to Australia. When we emigrated 17 years ago it felt like a door closing and a window opening. It's a real wrench to up stakes and do something new. But exciting, too. All the best for your new life.
Darn. I missed commenting earlier. Thought I had already visited. Guess the days are blurring for me.
Welcome! And I'm so excited for you. I so love to see people take chances when they know change is the best thing for them. Sometimes I feel so rooted in my life, it's exciting to see others take that leap of faith. Good for you.
With two children at home and very much invested in our community, I can't imagine my life in any other way. One day I hope my husband and I can pursue much of the travel we want to do...and maybe even move to a new area.
Congrats, again!
Congratulations on your debut book. I'm a firm believer in when a window closes a door opens.
I am rather accepting of change. I seem to go through a major upheaval every ten years & it can be an adventure.
Kate, what an interesting post, and I can see how Art imitates life. I hope to pick your book up, so make sure you remind all of us closer to December. I didn't see your book cover on the pic display so I hope the blogmaster can get it there.
Thank you for letting us have a peek into your life.
Wow! Homesteading. I'd love to hear more about your adventure doing that, but I'm sure parts of it will find their way into your writing. Congratulations on your sale to Harlequin.
With so many deaths around us in the past few years, it seems like a succession of doors slamming shut. Thank goodness for romance writers like you who give me some joy and happiness to look forward to--even if they are just tucked in the pages of a book. Congratulations on your first book! Bringing a sense of joy to those who need it is a noble undertaking indeed.
Hi Kate, congratulations on the launch of A DELIBERATE FATHER. It takes courage to open those new doors--or to close one behind you. Thanks for a thought-provoking post.
Congrats on your book. It can be scary when a door closes up. But I too believe that somewhere another will open. You just have to find it.
Our little "Reilly" is just thrilled to be your little model on your 1st ever Harlequin novel "A Deliberate Father". She thoroughly enjoyed the photo shoot and we are all very excited for your book release. It's been a pleasure talking with you and we wish you ALL the best, Reilly (aka Lacey the little girl in your story), Justine (Mom) and family.
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