Tuesday, July 5, 2011

What makes you laugh?

by Sarah Mayberry

There was a lot of fuss in 2007 when journalist Christopher Hitchens wrote an article in Vanity Fair entitled Why Women Aren't Funny. I won't bore you with the bulk of his theory, suffice to say that he thinks that because of our powerful natural sexual allure, women have never had to develop a sense of humour to appeal to the opposite sex.

Clearly, Mr Hitchens has never seen me in a mini-skirt. But that's a whole other story...

I don't know about you, but some of the funniest people I know are women, and some of the funniest books I've ever read are written by women. I don't want to get into a rebuttal of the rest of Mr Hitchens argument (mostly because it's just stoopid), but I would like to talk about the things that make me laugh, and in particular the women who make me laugh.

I love to laugh, and I love to make people laugh. In fact, I've wasted many, many hours of what should have been productive time in meetings thinking about the next funny thing to say instead of concentrating on the matter at hand (future employers beware!). If you gave me a choice of a sad, moving movie and a funny, stupid one, I'm going to pick the stupid one every time. Every. Time. Ditto for a good, sad romance novel versus a good, funny romance novel.

This became abundantly clear to me on the weekend when my mother was staying with us and we decided to raid our DVD collection to while away the evening. As I read out movie titles to my mother, waiting for her to express interest in watching one of them, I realised that our collection is a little on the, shall we say, lighter side. We have two copies of Happy Gilmore (not sure how that happened!), the extended edition of Something About Mary, Dirty Rotten Scoundrels, Zoolander, Kingpin, Borat, Ali G Indahouse, Dead Men Don't Wear Plaid... You get the picture.


Everyone says that sense of humour is a very personal thing, that what makes one person laugh might not tickle another person's funny bone, but I think that there is a lot of overlap in what people generally find funny, otherwise funny books wouldn't be successful and comedies wouldn't rake it in at the box office. The best recent example of this, for my money, is Bridesmaids. I have been pimping this movie out to anyone and everyone, not just because it's hilarious (and it is!) but because it's got some great female friendship stuff in it that made it both warm and moving as well as funny for me. I laughed so hard during certain sequences of this movie that I cried and almost threw up the burger I'd eaten beforehand.

What made this story so funny for me? I loved the friendship between the two women. I loved the way they delighted in each other's company and I loved the way they "got" each other. The actress who plays the lead character - who also happened to co-write the movie, talented lady - is a fantastic physical comedienne, as well as being real and vulnerable in the role. Also, there are a couple of "set pieces" in this movie that are pure gross out comedy, and I have a weakness for good gross out humour. The rivalry (and jealousy) between the two bridesmaids who are vying for the bride's affections is also horribly familiar and hilarious.

I challenge Mr Hitchens and anyone else who believes women aren't funny to see this movie. I dare him not to laugh - and if he cries and nearly throws up I'll rest my case.

So. What makes you laugh? What are your favourite funny books, TV series, movies? What's your favourite funny scene from any of the above? I'll be giving away two copies of my August Superromance, One Good Reason, to posters. This is the sequel to The Last Goodbye, my March Super, and I will be talking about it more here when it gets closer to its release date, but since my author copies arrived this week I figured I should get some out there!

Over to you!

(P.S. I'm filling in for Wanda Ottewell this week - she's catching up with her in-tray after a busy time at the RWA Conference, but she'll be back next month, we promise. )



51 comments:

Julie Hilton Steele said...

The Wilder Life by Wendy McClure has had me in stitches this past holiday weekend. It is her story of her obsession with the Little House book author, Laura Ingalls Wilder. I expected it to be entertaining but not laugh-out-loud funny every other page.

I am trying to figure out if it is the fact she captures my own memories of reading the Little House books and longings to live that life or if it would be humorous for any one reading it. I really tend to go for the later because it is a great example of the effect books and their characters have on us.

Women ARE funny. They can write funny for sure!

Peace, Julie

Sarah Mayberry said...

Hi Julie. I LOVED Little House on the Prairie when I was a kid. I loved the show, I loved the books. The McClure book sounds like a hoot - I shall look it up. Cheers!

JV said...

Oh my gosh! I LOVED Bridesmaids!!! So, I am enthusiastically seconding your endorsement, and I love humor in general. (This is why I'm devoted to the website damnyouautocorrect . com. My daughter introduced me to the site, and I laughed so hard that the next day my ribs were sore. If you've ever had your cell phone "correct" a text message to something you never intended, or even if you haven't but enjoy the idea that others have suffered this misfortune, you should check it out.)

Back to Bridesmaids, Kristen Wiig is a terrific comedienne! I love her on Saturday Night Live as well as in this movie, and I think she certainly disproves that guy's theory.

Two other movies I loved were Forgetting Sarah Marshall with Jason Segal (Marshall from How I Met Your Mother). It's hard to choose a scene since there are so many that I loved. (Kristen Wiig is in that one, too, but may be in the deleted scenes, as a pilates instructor.) Jason Segal and Russell Brand are both hysterical in this movie.

Another great comedy is Wedding Crashers with Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson. I don't know whether I love the scenes with Vince Vaughn and Isla Fisher best or the scenes with Vince Vaughn and the brother. Too funny any way you slice it!

Marcie said...

Encino Man with Pauly Shore and Brendan Fraser. Going in I knew the movie was going to be stupid and since I knew this I was able to enjoy it and laugh out loud.
A friend of mine saw Bridesmaids and she was telling me about the gross-humor scenes. Mainly because she knew those would make me laugh.
There was a gross out funny scene in the first Sex and the City movie with Charlotte. Gosh, that had me rolling.
As a side note - I blame my Dad for my enjoyment of gross humor! LOL.

Virginia said...

Christie Craig's books make me laugh. Every book I have read of hers is so funny.

Ellen Hartman said...

Hi Sarah,

As you can probably imagine, I'm also a fan of a good joke. My sister and I laughed ourselves silly at Bridesmaids. (Even though I actively avoid gross-out humor, the gross scene in Bridesmaids was so funny, I watched it with one eye.)

My critique partner, Diana Holquist, who is now writing as Sophie Gunn has a serious gift for humor in her writing. She taught me how to pace a scene to get the jokes to work. If people like funny scenes in their romance, I recommend Diana's books, especially Sexiest Man Alive and How Sweet It Is (by Sophie Gunn).

One of the best funny scenes I've read in a romance is the final dinner scene in Strange Bedpersons by Jennifer Crusie. (Crusie has so many funny scenes.) Another favorite is the opening beaver costume scene in Natural Born Charmer by Susan Elizabeth Philips.

I also love the scene when the Bridgerton brothers beat up Philip in To Sir Philip, With Love by Julia Quinn. Really, any scene with a bunch of Bridgertons bantering is going to be on my favorites list.

JV said...

As for funny books, I second Ellen's recommendation for the beaver scene from SEP's Natural Born Charmer. Also, pretty much any Kristan Higgins book is going to make you laugh at some points (and cry in others).

Rogenna Brewer said...

Thanks, Sarah for filling in.

I don't think I'm all that funny. But I can throw out a good oneliners at work when I play it straight. In writing I like to make my heroes the straight man and have the jokes bound off them.

linda s said...

I love laughter even though I only know two jokes. But not gross-out and not stupid and not mocking. I enjoy wit (and English humour.) I loved the movie Kinky Boots. Janet Evanovich makes me laugh in every book.

Karina Bliss said...

Where to start...I loved Bridesmaids too, though French Kiss is still my favorite romantic comedy. Just re-read Susan Elizabeth Philips' It had to be You. Great comedic first scene at a funeral involving a poodle and the heroine's Hungarian 'lover.' Georgette Heyer wrote great comedy, the scene in My Cousin Sophy where the heroine ties the hero in verbal knots when he's trying to dispute that his fiancee looks like a horse is hilarious.
Can't get enough of it really!

Karina

Beth Andrews said...

I can't wait to see Bridesmaids - though at this rate it won't be until it comes out on DVD *g*

I love Kristan Higgins' books. Laugh-out-loud funny but still emotional :-)

autumnmacarthur.com said...

I'm looking forward to seeing Bridemaids too! My all time favorite film is The Princess Bride. Too many funny scenes in there to even start to list them!

Jan said...

I haven't seen Bridesmaids yet though my son saw it and loved it! Two authors already mentioned--Jennifer Crusie and Susan Elizabeth Phillips--always make me laugh.

Sarah Mayberry said...

Hi JV - Great to find another Bridesmaids fan. I honestly think it's the funniest movie I've ever seen. My brother took a bunch of his friends to see it and one of his friends got this very intense look on his face while watching the bridal shower scene (with the giant cookie and chocolate fountain etc - you know the one!). Afterward, my brother said "you were really getting into that" and his friend said "it was so GOOD to see someone go off like that." And it was. Toe curlingly good.

Sarah Mayberry said...

Marcie, I don't think I've seen Encino Man. I love Brendan Fraser in The Mummy. It's one of my all time comfort movies. My husband does a very good zombie impersonation from that movie. And yes, dad's are good for gross out humor, aren't they?

Sarah Mayberry said...

Hi Virginia. Adding Christie Craig to my list, too. Thanks for the hot tip! I love a laugh out loud book - and I always read the bits to my man, even if he doesn't get them out of context.

Sarah Mayberry said...

Hi Ellen, I love the beaver scene in Natural Born Charmer, too. SEP writers great rom com, which is a gift because I think it's hard to pull off on the page. I shall add Sophie Gunn to my shopping list, also. And glad you watched with one eye - that scene is so funny. My brother went with us the first time, and took his friends for a second viewing. He said he started laughing the moment they got into the bridal shop and everyone thought he was nuts. But he couldn't stop and wound up in tears holding his sides.

Sarah Mayberry said...

Hi Rogenna. Poor Wanda was snowed, and I was down for Thursday anyway. I was hoping we could entice Helen to blog about her Rita experience, but she's still in NY. Maybe next week! Hope that deadline is treating you well.

Sarah Mayberry said...

Hi Linda. Janet Evanovich is wonderful. I haven't kept up with the Plum series but she's definitely a laugh out loud author. I love a bit of wit, too - I used to adore Black Adder when it was around, although his humor could be very biting at times.

Sarah Mayberry said...

Karina, the Grand Sophy is one of my favourite books ever. I love the scene where she goads him into the shooting match in the drawing room. I love how managing Sophy is and how he can't help but be attracted to her. She's magnificent. I have to admit, I think I had Sophy in the back of my mind a little when I was writing the book I just handed in. My heroine in that is built on rather grand lines and now that you've mentioned The Grand Sophy I realise that I picture them both in the same way in my head. Hmmm....

Kaelee said...

I haven't been to a movie in a long long time. The Bridesmaids is tempting me now. I do however like humor in books. Any book that can make me chuckle is a great book as far as I'm concerned.

Right now I'm enjoying hearing some old old Knock Knock jokes as told to me by my great nephews who are just old enough to understand them. I don't think I will ever tire of them as each new kid has a unique way of telling and laughing at the old chestnuts.

I am politically incorrect as I do like ethnic jokes and dumb blond jokes as well. I blame growing up in a small multi-cultured town for enjoying the ethic jokes as everyone told jokes on their own nationality. I don't really know any dumb blonds but one couple we are great friends with is responsible for my love of dumb blond jokes. She's blond ~ She's very smart ~ He's blond ~ He's very smart ~ Together they have a huge collection of dumb blond jokes.

Sarah Mayberry said...

Beth, Kristen Higgins is awesome. Just One of the Guys is one of my favourite books ever. I have re-read it soooo many times. And it only gets sadder at the end when you understand what's holding the hero back. Sigh.

Jane said...

I love Susan Andersen's books and my favorite sitcoms include 30 Rock(I love Tina Fey) and Community. I love raunchy comedies like The Hangover and 40 Year Old Virgin.

Sarah Mayberry said...

Hi Autumn. The Princess Bride is the greatest, smartest, sweetest, funniest movie. As you said, so many great lines. We use "inconceivable" a lot in our house. "I think that maybe this word does not mean what you think it means." I am trying to addict my niece to it. I wish it had been around when I was a kid.

Sarah Mayberry said...

Hi Jan. See Bridesmaids. You'll be smiling for days!

Jackie S. said...

I've laughed at movies and at books, but am thinking of how a dear friend makes me laugh. We have been friend since school days (yeah, ages ago), and she is so witty and funny. We live 70 miles apart now, but she just sent an E mail that made me LOL. I would love to see Bridesmaids with her! And would love to read your book!

Sarah Mayberry said...

Hi Kaelee - Even if you wait for Bridesmaids to come out on DVD, see it. It's so funny. And it's got great girl humour in it (take that, Hitchens!) that's so funny. I am very fond of some classic kid's jokes. Our current favourite, thanks to the kids next door, is "Why are Pirates so pirate-y? Because they Rrrrrrrrr". (With a pirate-y accent on the rrr's, of course!) And "how do you make a sausage roll? Put it on a sloping tin roof". Ah, oldies but goodies...

Sarah Mayberry said...

Hi Jane. You will love Bridesmaids (she says with great confidence!). I love all those things you just listed - although have only seen clips of Community - and, as stated above, I near threw up I laughed so had in Bridesmaids. Tina Fey is a goddess as far as I am concerned. We watch 30 Rock whenever we are bored.

Sarah Mayberry said...

Jackie S - I have a couple of friends who always make me feel great because the whole time we're together we crack each other up. There's nothing better, and it's one of the reasons why I love this movie so much because you really believe these two women are best, old friends. Maybe you could do a sleep over and see it together?

Laney4 said...

I usually LOL while watching NCIS.
As for books, I LOL (a LOT) and then had tears four pages later while reading Kathleen O'Reilly's story in A BLAZING LITTLE CHRISTMAS (anthology with Jacquie D'Alessandro and Joanne Rock). Just loved it.

Sarah Mayberry said...

Laney, my dad loves NCIS, and I have a friend whose cousin works on the show. He's an Australian who's "made it big" in LA. Inspiration for us all!

Snookie said...

I don't watch movies or tv much, but I really really like a good book. You can sometimes find me laughing out loud when I'm reading. I like a really feisty heroine that has great wit :) I don't like humor that puts other's down, but I do like it when the hero or heroine can laugh at themselves!

Sarah Mayberry said...

Hi Snookie. Self deprecating humour is one of my favourite forms of humour. It's so relatable, often, and honest. A laugh out loud book is a gift indeed.

Joan Kilby said...

I LOVED Bridesmaids. Woman are very funny. There are so many examples, including and especially, Tina Fey in 30 Rock. I'll second everyone on SEP and Jenny Crusie. The beaver scene was priceless as was the later scene where the heroine attacks her ex and her ex's new lady while the hero makes hilarious asides. Funny movies I've seen in the past year are the English movie, Cemetery Junction (Ricky Gervais) and the French movie, Heartbreaker with Vanessa Paradis (Johnny Depp's partner). Totally different styles of humor but both great.

Tammy Yenalavitch said...

Hi Sarah - Do not enter me - I already bought your book. Funniest TV shows to me are Modern Family and Hot in Cleveland. As far as books, Kristan Higgins always make me laugh and cry. Also, Ellen Hartman and Holly Jacobs write with my kind of humor. I do not watch many comedy movies, but the preview for Horrible Bosses looks so funny, I hope it's a good movie.

Sarah Mayberry said...

Hi Joan. I was wondering if you'd seen this. I was thinking we could slink off for a matinee if you hadn't. Damn! I still have to take my mum, since we didn't go last weekend. You and I have already bonded over our love of 30 Rock. So clever.

Sarah Mayberry said...

H Tammy. Hope you enjoy the read. I second you on the Modern Family love. It's so cute and sweet and subversive sometimes. Unfortunately, we seem to be caught in a loop with our cable tv where we keep getting the same few episodes over and over. I need new eps of Modern Family to laugh over. It sounds as though Kristan Higgins is a firm fave with lots of readers - with good reason.

marybelle said...

Clever & witty makes me laugh. Everything from TV commercials to the greatest of classics.

Kirsten said...

Women aren't funny???? That guy has got to be joking!!

I recently saw a documantarie about Liz Smith (actress) going on a cruise & I never laughed as much as I did then. Putting on a life vest and playing with the light that doesn't go off again. Having a drink and blaming the ship for not being able to walk straight. Ordering a latte coffee & getting a small expresso and a large glass of milk. Doing the mixing herself and claiming it the best drink ever.... So funny.

Sarah Mayberry said...

Hi Marybelle. You're so right - sometimes TV commercials are perfect little gems of funny. Those Old Spice ads leap to mind, but I'm sure there are plenty.

Sarah Mayberry said...

Hi Kirsten, Liz Smith sounds like an absolute riot. Can you remember what it was called? I shall try to find it if I can.

Kirsten said...

@ Sarah,

It's called: Liz Smith's Summer Cruise
She's 87 years old! and I just think she's hilarious.

Michele L. said...

Love romantic comedies! One author I love is Vicki Lewis Thompson's NERD series books. Love Sophie Kinsella's SHOPAHOLIC series too! Just thought of another author. She writes murder mysteries with romance but her stories are really funny! It is Gemma Halliday's HIGH HEEL series.

My favorite funny movie is ROMANCING THE STONE with Michael Douglas, Danny Devito, Kathleen Turner among others. Great action, romance, and hilarious! Loved Danny Devito!

Debra Salonen said...

Where have I been all week? I missed all the fun. I look forward to seeing this movie when it hits DVD. My daughter is maid of honor for her best friend Bridezilla Jen. I wanted to take her to this movie but it just didn't work out--schedule-wise.

Thanks for filling in, Sarah. I bet poor Wanda is swamped.

Deb

JV said...

Anyone who thinks women are not funny has not seen either of these clips. They crack me completely up!

The first is a clip from the Ellen Degeneres show where she calls an elderly woman viewer who wrote in that she needed to move a plant on the set. The woman turns out to be an absolute treasure: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cNRFGvGRUgE

The second is a southern comedienne named Jeanne Roberts about fashion in New York City. I think this woman is a riot! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QNfzKiS-eTU

JV said...

I should have given you this link for the Ellen Degeneres clip instead: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-jeCL9f2NNI&NR=1

The one I gave you before is just the "punchline" of the longer clip. It's worth the time to watch the whole clip. Honestly, it can make your day.

Sarah Mayberry said...

Michele, Romancing The Stone is such a great movie. I need to get it out and watch it again. Danny Devito is so funny. I love him in ruthless people.

Sarah Mayberry said...

Hi Deb, your daughter needs the stress relief of bridesmaids before the big day. It's mandatory decompression time. She should take the bride, too!!!

Sarah Mayberry said...

JV, thanks for those two clips. They were awesome. Gladys is a hoot!

Anonymous said...

Love this topic, Sarah!

I adore comedy and it's something my husband and I share and hopefully will pass down to our kids.

We're particularly fans of Seinfeld, King of the Hill, Parks and Recreation and The Office. We also like ironic and iconic shows like Freaks and Geeks and Curb your Enthusiasm. I've caught Modern Family several times and have like it as well.

Movie-wise we love things like The Hangover (haven't seen the 2nd and it doesn't look particularly good), The Big Lebowski, John Hughes films, and a few Jim Carey movies like The Cable Guy.

Books - I, too, like SEP and I've grown quite fond of Mary Kay Andrews as well. She's good at Southern humor.

I could go on and on, but you get the gist. Great topic and I loved reading everyone's responses :)

Liz Talley

Sarah Mayberry said...

Liz, I love Cable Guy so much. It's such an underrated movie - so dark and twisted and subversive. One of Jim Carey's best performances ever. If you haven't seen 30 Rock, it's definitely worth a shot. We also grew quite fond of Bored To Death after a few viewings - the George characters as played by Ted Danson is pure genius.